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[aliseadae]

There are a lot of things I do not know. A lot of them are emotional things and feelings that have not happened to me yet.

And I don't know if I am mature or what maturity is.

I don't know if I understand certain ways to interact with people. I think I am bad at starting things up, whatever they are. At asking people to help me with things or forming some sort of give and take deal.

Maturity is probably self reflection, at least in part. It is also most likely looking at others and seeing who they are. I don't know how well I can see most people. I'd like to be better at seeing them (their feelings and thoughts but not /everything). I'm not really sure what else maturity is.

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[lex-of-green.livejournal.com]

I can't offer advice on maturity, as I'm pretty much a paragon of not-mature. I do know it's one of those words that means, very, very different things to different people though.

Many of your posts hint at the stories and situations behind them. I'd be curious to hear the full story one day.
But I can appreciate veils too.

I'm making a D&D character right now. She worships the Kraken - a god of depth and secrets. She might wear a veil.

[mrissa.livejournal.com]

I think one of the facets of maturity is recognizing that you're not fully there and never will be, but also will never stop growing and trying. My grandpa lived to be 81, and he never stopped learning or trying to become a fuller, deeper person.

Some people get the self-knowledge facets of maturity first. Some gets knowledge of other people before they get clear on themselves. In some ways I don't like the way our culture sets it up that you can drive at this age but not drink until this other age and not rent cars until yet a third age, but in other ways it makes perfect sense that these things are not the same skill set, do not require the same set of self-knowledge, other-knowledge, organization, etc.